I never enjoyed work, but I’ve been earning money since age 13 when I started a babysitting business. I worked through depression, bipolar disorder, trauma and PTSD. So I don’t think it’s mental health issues. I think for certain men — let’s say white would-be middle class men — it’s the fact that they had an expectation not to work very hard and still get quite a lot. My parents were uneducated, working class, and I strived hard to become nothing like them. I thought as early as high school that the ONLY way to make it was to work VERY hard. I’ve met quite a few white men in their 30s and 40s who were raised in middle class homes who galavant around, going from girlfriend to girlfriend, living at this and that relative’s home, and then inheriting someone’s money at some point and basically getting by. If they were not born white and middle class, I highly doubt their tactics would work and I highly doubt anyone would give a damn about their existential depression. No one gave a damn about mine. While putting myself through college, I also paid for my own therapy. I kid you not. All while living with my abusive parents who would harangue me for not paying them rent. So I don’t have a ton of empathy for a lot of these loser men I’ve met. I was engaged to one who was actually OLDER than I was and had previously “worked” for his parents business. When his parents’ business went under, he relied on me and making cash under the table for a friend. Eventually he hooked up with a therapist professor of his from a program I encouraged him to complete (which he never did). He inherited a house from a dead parent and his new girlfriend helped foot part of the bill of whatever portion of the house wasn’t paid off. I kid you not. I briefly dated another white man in his 30s who likened himself to “Dylan” from 90210. He actually said that. He is still underemployed and living in CA in some relative’s extra house. How he gets by, I don’t understand. I think he’s 40 now and never married anyone. Never published a book either. But constantly whines on Facebook about being a writer. These men own no property, have no serious health issues, have not married, have no children, and have not accomplished much. It’s just like they are HERE. I guess that’s enough for them.